tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023121558075366461.post8141257168420932983..comments2023-10-31T11:20:17.543-04:00Comments on Pleasantly Furious: Known DonorAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13584623209829015563noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023121558075366461.post-55274494580026212942014-03-09T14:26:01.075-04:002014-03-09T14:26:01.075-04:00hı ı am gay and ı need mama for my future chıld. h...hı ı am gay and ı need mama for my future chıld. how and where ı can fınd her?fuadnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023121558075366461.post-82581863246925614642012-07-15T14:49:11.537-04:002012-07-15T14:49:11.537-04:00What a great story!What a great story!momheartspinothttp://www.momheartspinot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023121558075366461.post-23728959194202487642012-06-03T20:42:18.624-04:002012-06-03T20:42:18.624-04:00Hi! Thanks so much for taking the time to leave a...Hi! Thanks so much for taking the time to leave a comment. It really makes my day to hear that my writing reached someone. I don't know if you saw my more recent post about using a known donor (http://www.westphillymama.com/2012/05/ltym-philly-donor-uncle.html) - but a year later we are expecting #2 and still very happy with the way things are working out. I really think a donor contract is the best way to start - making sure everyone is on the same page. It's a bit formal, but there's no other way to really lay out all the different scenarios/questions/legalities without being formal. It really put a lot of my fears to rest to sit across the table from each other and say these things out loud and see each others faces as we voiced our fears and reactions. Good luck!West Philly Mamahttp://www.westphillymama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023121558075366461.post-48367031263805771332012-06-03T13:53:21.155-04:002012-06-03T13:53:21.155-04:00Thank you for inspiring me. Let me explain. I have...Thank you for inspiring me. Let me explain. I have struggled with whether or not my brother should be the donor for my partner's and I first child. She definitely wants to give birth and I on the other hand, don't. We are engaged to get married in less than 2 years and to begin the process of having our first child a year or two afterwards. Lately, there has been more conversations about finances and of course children come into play. I was adamant about having an unknown donor because I would still see my brother as being a father of my child. However after reading this, I have changed my mind. You write so eloquently about the relationship between you, your partner and the unknown donor. I then think about how amazing my brother is and how i know what a wonderful uncle he would be to my child. My partner already talked with him and he's down, I just wasn't ready. Now I am. I guess reading your blog also made me think about how you are so closely related to me. I lived in Philadelphia last year, in West Philly. My partner is Latina and a queer activist and I am a trans black man (women too) who is also an activist. We obviously have different experiences and because you are in an interracial (from my perspective) queer (from my perspective) relationship, I think wow, if they seem ok, I guess my fears are valid but things can be ok. I can be a dad to my child and at the same time be open and honest with my kid about their donor at the same time while that donor be apart of that child's life. Ultimately it is all about family and what family means and family is defined by my partner and I, that is the realization. I go in circles sometimes but I hope this makes sense. I guess I really wanted to share with you how your story touched me. So thank you for sharing your story, I send much love and respect to you and your family. Please never stop sharing your kind and beautiful words.Shawnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023121558075366461.post-83365440610021823662011-09-15T23:24:11.372-04:002011-09-15T23:24:11.372-04:00Love this! This is such an amazing story and I'...Love this! This is such an amazing story and I'm humbled by your openness to share. It honestly never occurred to me to ask about donors. I'm so not curious like that. All I see is how cute Leo is and how much you and JB love him.Liz @ Six Year Itchhttp://www.sixyearitch.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023121558075366461.post-74215920619308725032011-06-06T12:46:13.872-04:002011-06-06T12:46:13.872-04:00Hey - I came across your post via Mombian. This po...Hey - I came across your post via Mombian. This post kind of hits home for me.<br /><br />I lived in West Philly up until last year. When we do have children (waaaay i the future) my partner and I have already decided to use my brother as the donor. The thing is, my brother is also gay, so obviously we've talked about this, and I'd get to reciprocate if he has a family someday. It's a win-win for both. What I look forward to in that situation is having my child look and be like all of us.<br /><br />Now I'm going to keep reading for the pictures and nostalgia of Clark Park.maddoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04724703551253667180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023121558075366461.post-70763218657837336842011-05-29T21:39:07.300-04:002011-05-29T21:39:07.300-04:00After seeing the last picture of Leo on facebook, ...After seeing the last picture of Leo on facebook, about 3 minutes ago, I said out loud to Jon, "One of Jessica's brothers must have been their donor! He looks just like them, and JB!" and then I came to your blog to see what was new and read this post. I love seeing what a great year its been for you guys!joannahttp://thejojos.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023121558075366461.post-42603467654676546282011-04-17T21:34:16.104-04:002011-04-17T21:34:16.104-04:00I loved this entry.
I actually didn't know tha...I loved this entry.<br />I actually didn't know that jb's brother was your donor - it makes so much sense now why leo and jb look so similar..but by the same token, we are always told that my Manny looks like his Mim (who has NO genetic link whatsoever!) so I figured it was one of those nature vs nurture things :)<br /><br />How lucky you are to be able to share such close links to your donor. Our donor situation is very similar, he's as close to a brother as my partner has ever had - they were raised together as their parents are best friends :)Suzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10979257233557088253noreply@blogger.com