Tuesday, November 20, 2012
Helicopter Parents Anonymous
This has raised my blood pressure considerably, but it has also given him lots of opportunities to impress me. And impressed I have been. Did you know that he can sit on a regular (non-baby basket style with leg holes) swing just fine and even pump? I sure as heck didn't. Stepping back a bit has also allowed me to relax a little. I can sit at the park, nurse Zoe, hold a conversation... That's not to say I don't still have my heart in my throat as he tests his physical limits - but I'm trying to trust his judgement. And so far it's been pretty good.
I recently took this video at the playground. It was hard not to step in when he lost his footing - but not only did he not ask for help, he recovered on his own and didn't even look back as he continued on.
I'm still fighting the urge to micro manage his play most days - but it has been really neat to watch him blossom. Not just on the playground, but at home, too. His independent and imaginative play has grown by leaps and bounds as well.
The timing for me stepping back (even if it wasn't my idea so much as a necessity) couldn't have been better - it fostered his independence just as he was about to need it more than ever. I suppose that is the silver lining of the discomfort of the third trimester. With Zoe's arrival his new found autonomy came in handy since I wasn't as available. And it helped me know he was going to be ok.